What is Oneness in Marriage?
- agapemarriageandfa
- Jul 3, 2025
- 3 min read
"Then the LORD God said, 'It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.'...So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he slept; then He took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh at that place. The LORD God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man. The man said, 'This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called woman because she was taken out of man.' For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh." - Genesis 2:18, 21-24 - NASB 1995
My wife and I have recently started a YouTube channel where we speak on marriage and family. We call our channel "Christ Centered Marriage and Family." This idea came to us after we came back from a Christian marraige conference and began a journey to make our marriage better. At the marriage conference we learned the concept of oneness in marriage. In Christian terminology, oneness in marriage is that bond between a husband and a wife when they are both led by Jesus Christ and submit to and love each other. Lori and I have stated many times in our YouTube shows the Bible theme in our marriage is Ephesians 5:22-33, where Paul tells the wives to submit to their husbands and for the husbands to love their wives like Christ loved the church. One day, my wife and I both realized that none of these things will happen in marriage if the husband and wife do not adhere to the standard of marriage that God established in the beginning.
When I am asked, "What is Biblical marriage?" or "What is Christian marraige?" I respond that it is a marriage founded upon the principles established in Genesis 2:18-25. Here, God observes the first man, Adam, as he is alone in His creation and God give him a helpmate. God takes a rib from the first man and fashions his helpmate for him. When man wakes and discovers what the LORD God had created for him, he was excited. I often say when teaching the Bible that you sometimes have to infer into the text things that are not there but if they were there it would enhance the meaning of the text. If I could paraphrase verse 23, I would say, "This person, who the LORD God created for me, is bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh and I am excited about this!" I truly believe Adam knew why God created Eve to be his helpmate. I believe Adam and Eve had that oneness that a husband and wife should have in marriage.
Oneness in marriage is a connection built upon love, sacrifice, selfless giving, service, commitment, forgiveness, grace, mercy, and kindness towards each other. Oneness in marriage involves the husband and wife to be connected mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. When a husband and wife achieve true oneness in marriage, they are connected in all areas. None of these things can truly happen when a husband and wife do not put Jesus Christ first in their lives.
When Moses wrote the account of God's creation, he understood the concept of oneness in marraige as a God ordained institute. Mosesly wrote in verse 24, "and they shall become one flesh." Christian marriage involves a man and a woman joining together and becoming one flesh in a lifelong covenant with God. Moses understood Oneness in marriage.
Joey
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